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Thursday, July 22, 2010

CREATING HAPPINESS IN MARRIED LIFE

Being happy is one important factor for you to survive the relationship and have a successful marriage. Happiness is like the key to make sure that your marriage will work out no matter what. However, many couples find themselves unhappy with their partner even while they’re still in the early stages of their marriage.
Being unhappy during your first few weeks or months of marriage can be dangerous. This unhappiness could develop into something worse.  To avoid a sad ending to your married life, you should learn little ways about how you can create happiness in your marriage. As a guide, here are some essentials that you need to know.
Make Your Spouse Happy
The thing with marriage is that are two of you who should be working on the relationship. Thus, you shouldn’t only think about your own happiness, but also your spouse’s happiness. In fact, you should prioritize making him or her happy in the relationship. At the same time, he or she should prioritize your happiness. It’s basically give and take.
Communication Leads to Happiness
One thing that your married life should never lose is communication. This is a very important aspect in keeping your relationship healthy and happy. Always remember to talk things out in a calm and rational manner. Tell each other your deepest thoughts. Learn to express your feelings. Your partner has the right to know what you’re thinking and at the same time he/she does have the right to know what is on your mind as well.
Surprise!
Always keep in mind that no one’s ever too old for surprises. Getting married doesn’t mean you stop doing funny or silly things to impress each other. So, whether you’re in your 20’s or even 50’s, there’s no harm in surprising your spouse once in a while. Doing this definitely gives both of you some endorphin rush and get you fuelled up for more happy days to come.
It doesn’t really matter whether your surprise is something big or small. It’s always the thought that counts!
Quality Time Equals Happy Time
Although married life means a lot of responsibilities, especially in the financial department; this doesn’t mean that you have to drown each other with work. Always keep in mind that you should spend some quality time with each other. If you have kids, make some quality time with the whole family. However, you should also have some time in store alone for just the two of you.
Use this time to talk and catch up with what’s going on with each of your lives. Use this time to say “I love you”, which is something many couples forget to say once marriage becomes “habit”.
Do Something Exciting
Is anyone up for some bungee jumping? How about sky diving? Would you want to go hiking? How about a romantic weekend getaway? Married life would definitely be a happy life if you lead an exciting lifestyle. As mentioned, you shouldn’t get all hyped up with work. Do something exciting for the both of you once in a while. A little adrenaline rush won’t hurt.
Have these kinds activities planned out.  By doing this you and your spouse have something to look forward to.  Anticipation is the key.  As excitement builds up, the happier the two of you will be.
Small Things Matter Too!
Sometimes things get taken for granted in the relationship especially once you are married. Always remember that even the smallest gestures matter! Even something as insignificant as leaving a note for your partner to remind him or her to take his/her medicine means something. Try leaving voice messages on his/her cell phone just to say “I love you” or “I miss you” really brightens up the day

1 comment:

are2 said...

reading your post.